Hi.

Life down here in Wiltshire is just the same as always. Slow.. but that is how we like it.

Since I retired from work in April 2014 life has been strange. No work commitments anymore.
I dont have to get up in the morning. I can stay in bed all day if I want but that becomes a bit boring after a while.

What does one do during the day.... gardening.. sorry but that doesn't float my boat. Socialise, again not something I can do for long. I love exploring and visiting new places but again not all  the time.

What I do next is anyones guess but I hope it doesn't take too long to get sorted.

Joanna seems to enjoy retirement but she is more out going than I am. As for Ben ... well ... he needs a lot of exercise so I think he is going to keep us reasonably fit.

I hope you are all doing well.
Love Phil

I am going to keep this very short. You have possibly inherited two health problems.

The first one is Glaucoma. This is an eye disease that can progress to blindness
if not treated. This is nothing to be frightened of but you must go and visit your doctor
so that they can advise you. A few years ago my cousin john contracted Glaucoma
and after treatment was cleared. Unfortunately my father wasn't so lucky. He did not
realise he had Glaucoma until it was too late for treatment to be effective. He subsequently became registered blind.

The second health problem is an Arterial Disease. This again is hereditary. My cousin john, my father, my father's brother and I have all had the same problem. In my case the problem showed itself as a narrowing of the right coronary artery which was sorted by the insertion of a stent.There is not much you can do to about this, other than stop smoking. You may have the same problem, you may not. My brother Geof has so far been lucky enough to have avoided it. The only advice I can give you is: If in doubt see your doctor.

You have your own reasons for not having any contacted with me but if there is any more information I can
give please don't hesitate to email me at  @ philgoulson.co.uk

 

Hi.
I don't really know what to say... but here goes.

I hope life is treating you well and you have found solace.

I feel sure that you are aware that the boys have decided that they would rather not have any contact with me. They are now old enough to make their own decisions and if that is what they want, then so be it. I had hoped that as they got older they might want to get in contact, but this, appears, not to be.

When it became apparent that contact was not going to happen I decided it was my responsibility to inform them of some herediary medical problems they may have. I began making every effort to find and contact them. When I did, I got very little response other than to be told I was harrassing them and not to bother them. A rather sad response.

If they wish to ignore my warnings there is nothing I can do about it. Please could you make sure our grand children are made aware of these hereditary problems.
Thanks
Phil

PS. I have heard that you have been spreading some pretty crazy stories about me; I dont know the details of  these stories or have the imagination to determine what they are about.

It does appear that the boys really believe what I can only surmise are wildly exaggerated sick stories. I hope you can live with yourself, for your sake. It appears you have made brainwashing an art.

I, and many others, know that I am not the wicked person you appear to be telling everyone and that is all that matters.

I have recently become aware that you have been telling people some wild and sick stories about me.
Please stop.

I  have no idea what these stories are about but it appears you have been making nasty insinuations against me, based,  I believe, on malicious gossip created by people that had their own spiteful intent.

Where did these stories originate? I can only come up with one answer to this question: vengence.

I dont believe my asking you to stop is going to change anything but I do hope that you can move on and stop  blaming me entirely for our failed marriage. We were just incompatible, it was never going to work.

I understand, now, that these stories were designed to turn the children against me; to stop them wanting access  and to subsequently hate my very existence. You succeeded ... there is no more need to continue.

Hate can create bitterness which is all consuming and can seep out of every orifice in your body;  I have tried hard to stop this happening to me and have fought through the pain you hurled at me when you made access to the children inpossible.

Why has it taken over 30 years for me to finally hear that these stories, whatever they are, exist. I had my suspicions but was never sure. I thought and still think that you created these stories to justify your not wanting to have anything to do with me and that included my not having access to the children.

Why didn't you confront me with these accusations back then. If these stories are as sick as I think they may be, how on earth could you believe them or maybe create them.. I think it just shows the pretty bad state our marriage was in.
Please stop.